FAQs (Frequency Asked Questions)

What can I expect?

Initially you can expect us to be relatively problem focused. As we discuss the issues that bring you to counseling, we will be focusing on the underlying dynamics (e.g. communication, intimacy, anger management issues, etc.) that are driving the problems you are experiencing. As a useful and robust understanding of these dynamics is developed, things will begin to improve. As things continue to improve, our discussions will become increasingly present and future focused, and the process wil begin to feel more like coaching.

How do I get the most out of my counseling?

This is a collaborative process. I will need you to come prepared with general subjects / issues that you wish to address. It's important that we not only have topics for discussion, but also that I consistently receive your feedback during those discussions. This will allow me to ensure that the solutions I offer are properly tailored to meet your unique needs. For optimum results, expect the process to take between twelve and twenty-four hours, spread out over eight to fourteen weeks, with the average being twenty hours over twelve weeks. The future doesn't just happen, it is created... our destiny is not in the stars, but in ourselves. We may need to follow in the wake of those who have gone before us, but what we do, and where we go is ultimately up to us.

What does successful counseling look and feel like?

Successful counseling results in a new understanding and perspective about issues important to you; i.e. yourself, your relationships, and your work. In the end, your new knowledge and perspective will have the effect of you being more confident and competent in your daily dealings. Most importantly, you will be able to employ these same skills when you need to address important and crucial situations - doing so with a new sense of purpose.

How do I know when I am finished?

You will feel finished. Most of the concerns and anxiety that brought you into this process will have dissipated. You will have learned new coping skills, and strategies to deal with any issues that may persist. If you wish, I will be able to give you feedback about your decision to end counseling, and discuss it with you. Ultimately, the decision is in your hands, and should reflect your new level of comfort.

Is it okay to come back if I need to?

Yes! My door will always be open to you. The relationship that is forged between us can be an invaluable resource for you in times of need. No matter how small your concerns may seem, my door will be open to you, whether on an intermittent or ongoing basis. We all encounter challenges from time to time, and having a coach who knows you, and your values, can be your ticket to success and happiness in work, relationships, and your personal development.

There is hope.

Robert Whitman, Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, CAC III